Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Just for today, if I have avoided honesty in a relationship that was forged in drinking but now is broken because I have moved on to recovery and another person hasn't, I must confront the possibility that I have out-grown the relationship if the other person chooses not to walk with me in sobriety. Just like the drinking alcoholic who lost his family and gained sobriety but didn't not get his family back, so it goes with other relationship. As difficult and painful the decision, the choice may be my own recovery and sobriety at the risk of staying with a partner who is not - and may never be - ready or willing to get better with me. And an unfortunate and unintended product of sobering up may be the self-realization that I might not like the spouse or partner with whom alcohol was a constant presence in our relationship. And a tough choice may boil down to the stark fact that I cannot sacrifice my sobriety to salvage a relationship that, in recovery, may not be healthy enough to salvage. Today, if I have to severe a relationship because I am becoming healthier and the other person is becoming sicker, I need only to look to the members of my group for validation. And our common journey continues. Just for today. - Chris M., 2012
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