Saturday, June 18, 2022

June 18, 2022 - Readings in Recovery: Today's Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

 

Saturday, June 18, 2022

Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Changing what we can is essential

We come into this program exasperated because our attempts to change others have failed. We’d been certain that if the drinker stopped drinking and the boss quit nagging and the kids settled down, we’d be happy and secure. However, none of the above happened. Our subsequent desperation brought us to the program, and now good fortune is beginning to strike.

The first valuable lesson we learn is that we can’t change anyone else, no matter how lofty our motives or how domineering our personality. Screaming, pouting, pleading, bartering, crying, or leaving won’t make other people change. If they change, it’s because they have decided to change, not because we won.

Our second valuable lesson is that we can change. We can change what we expect of others. We can decide to let a Higher Power guide our actions. We can “lighten up.” We can focus our attention on this day only. We can trust that there is a plan for our lives and that all is well.

There is a lot I can do today. I’ll begin by keeping my attention on my behavior and working on my relationship with God.

Hazelden Foundation

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