Saturday, Dec. 19, 2020
Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
We can be free of turmoil and frustration
Being overly concerned with or involved in others’ lives is a symptom of codependency. Our feelings about ourselves have too often been dependent on our relations with others. Now we’re working to change that.
A key element of recovery is learning to detach from the affairs of others. Making sure a partner goes to work is not our responsibility. Smoothing relations between a parent and a sibling is not our job. Making excuses for a loved one’s drunken behavior doesn’t help that person get help. Our best response is no response in every situation where another’s behavior is causing problems.
It’s very hard to quit helping when a friend is in trouble. Fortunately, we have the example of other people in the program to follow.
Today I can recognize the boundaries between me and others. How they behave is not my concern, and it’s not my job to fix it.
Hazelden Foundation
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