Wednesday, Nov. 16, 2022
Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
The cause is hidden, but the result is known. — Ovid
Causes bring about effects. In human behavior, we tend to get what we do. If what we do is shout a lot and shake our fists, what we get is a shortage of people who want to be around us. If what we do is withdraw and hide, what we get is loneliness and an ever-deepening sense that we are not likeable.
If what we do is get involved with people who are too selfish or emotionally damaged to hold up their end of a loving relationship, what we get is a broken heart — perhaps over and over again. On the other hand, if what we do is concentrate on making ourselves healthier and more generous people, what we get is genuine readiness for a relationship that can work. And if what we do is consistently work our program, what we get is joyous recovery.
Instead of complaining about the effects of our behavior, we could better spend our time by looking at the behavior itself. We do have choices.
Today, I won’t look for apples on a lemon tree. If I want a tree that grows apples, I’ll have to buy an apple tree.
Hazelden Foundation
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